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Friday, 24 April 2009

and here we are again

Its 03:22. Got up to take an anti-histamine and have made myself a cup of tea and switched the computer on to take my mind off the nettle devils. I've also had a fruity/nutty bar thing and two slices of toast and am feeling wide awake, so that's me grinding to a halt around 2pm then. Sigh.

On the plus side, there's light at the end of the tunnel at work since I finally completed the report I've been meaning to finish for weeks (which gets scary woman upstairs off my back for a few days) and I've reduced the piles of 'to do' stuff so its feeling more manageable now.

And I have made a suggestion to mum about a change in accommodation that I think she's considering....(I've abandoned attempts to insert a map).....there's some retirement flats just over the road from where I work and about 2.5 miles away from where I live. They look great, they're about 400 yards from a row of shops and there's a few for sale.

Pros for mum -
  1. its 20 minutes nearer to my work and home than her current address so I could call in every lunchtime and maybe for a while on the days I don't go at present
  2. she might be able to make it to the shops on her own with a walking stick or a tri-walker so wouldn't feel a prisoner in her own home
  3. she might not be so lonely if she's surrounded by people of a similar age, she might even make a friend or two!
  4. she wouldn't have to look after a garden
  5. I'm only 5 minutes away whether at work or at home so can be with her much quicker in an emergency.
Cons -
  1. she'd have to go through the trauma of moving (she's 90 in November!)
  2. she'd have to change her beloved doctor.

Pros for me - 1 and 5 from mum's pros.

Cons for me (totally selfish of course) -

  1. I have a feeling that if I'm more accessible, mum will be summoning me more often.
  2. I'll have to go through the trauma of moving my mum.

Watch this space!

Well not this one of course. Nothing else going to happen in this space. Its 04:20 - I'm going back to bed.


Granny on the Web said...

I know too well the trauma of 'moving' mothers. At least I had a sister to help me sort through the detritus of years of hoarding, and one of us could keep her occupied, whilst we deftly slunk out the door, all the stuff she would never miss... and didn't. We stored many a box for her after that, but as she soon forgot about the boxes as well, we very slowly down-sized her. She was happily occupied with her new found friends and 'hobbies' and was happy for a long while.
I don't envy you,so good luck and the strength to carry it out. At least the pro's outweigh the cons.
Love Granny.
(I have the feeling it will be me needing my kids to do the same to me soon!)

bulletholes said...

i DIDN'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS, BUT i BET CHANGING A BELOVED dOCTOR IS WORTH (oops) is worth double/triple Con points.
Good luck, Lily.