tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4301247046096444193.post7598886557543938255..comments2023-05-02T15:29:28.353+01:00Comments on Lily has another go: rapids aheadLilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07674290059708540185noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4301247046096444193.post-32368759581220096102010-03-26T18:30:36.626+00:002010-03-26T18:30:36.626+00:00I am so sorry to read this. Is this something that...I am so sorry to read this. Is this something that happens often with dementia? Surely you have done everything you could for her; that "hope they shoot me" comment sounds pretty close to that "extraordinary measures" conversation to me. But still, to stand by & let her do this to herself...I can't imagine. <br /><br />Do be good to yourself right now; this is a big load for you to carry....EmilyEmilynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4301247046096444193.post-33508903788734850672010-03-23T18:20:25.681+00:002010-03-23T18:20:25.681+00:00Mum just wasn't the kind of person you could h...Mum just wasn't the kind of person you could have the 'extraordinary measures' conversation with, even before dementia. She would have thought it very 'hard-faced'. The closest she came was to say 'I hope they shoot me before I get like that' - that being someone in much the same state as herself these days. Thanks for your good wishes Greg and Clippy xLilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07674290059708540185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4301247046096444193.post-19989205378634845712010-03-23T10:43:54.051+00:002010-03-23T10:43:54.051+00:00thinking of you Lily.
It does seem as though she m...thinking of you Lily.<br />It does seem as though she may have reached the end of her road. Stay strong.<br />It's been a long road for you too.<br />:-)Clippy Mathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15922234265229327474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4301247046096444193.post-40356456526070139952010-03-23T05:07:54.926+00:002010-03-23T05:07:54.926+00:00Oh Lily, I'm so sorry to read that your Mum is...Oh Lily, I'm so sorry to read that your Mum is doing this. It's desperately sad. I expect all you can really tell yourself is that you couldn't have done anything differently - your Mum is too confused for you to be able to look after her at home, so she's in the best place there is for her. She's plainly not thriving, but there really isn't anything that you could do. Sometimes it's nobody's fault.<br /><br />I can't imagine how I'd cope if my Mum started to starve herself - there's a small part of me that would be reluctant to take away from her the one aspect of control she still wielded in her own life, but I haven't faced it and I know I'd probably cave and have them feed Mum with a drip or whatever they do. Did you ever have the "no extraordinary measures" conversation with your Mum before she succumbed to dementia?<br /><br />I wonder if a new hearing aid might bring her out of it - reconnect her - she must feel so much more isolated by having lost that?<br /><br />I hope things are better tomorrow and that you get some sleep, somehow. Your own exhaustion isn't going to help anyone.<br /><br />G xGreghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15270177252139637687noreply@blogger.com